What it takes to grow beyond yourself?

Have you ever wanted not to be yourself? Have you ever wanted to grow beyond your weaknesses? Have you ever faced such a situation where you thought it would have been better without you? We all face such situations in our lives but the questions is how many of us try to grow beyond this and try to see the bigger picture.We are so entangled in our own lives that we hardly try to take a step back and try to look what we have painted on the canvas of our life. We often end up doing the same things again and again. But how often we try to learn from what we did earlier. I never call anything I do a mistake as it is not it is just the wrong approach that I might  have taken or it may be that the results that I expected were different than they actually came out to be. Now getting to the real question "How to grow beyond yourself?" . Follow some simple rules to do that and you will certainly feel the change in your perception of you and the world around you.Some of these basic rules are:

1. Never think of yourself as a failure.As failure is not a term that you choose for what you did and it did not turn out to be the way you wanted. It's just that you did not succeed in first attempt. May be you need a little bit more experience in doing that. So just give it some more shots to succeed. Remember Rome was not built in a day.
2. Never let your weakness as they call it in your way in whatever you want to do. In such matters think of your weakness as an opportunity to grow.
3. Never feel that you do not have a purpose in your life. This is the biggest mistake people commit. They think they do not have a purpose in life.Everyone has a purpose in life and it's just with time we discover the same.
4. Never give up on yourself. Situations might not be in favor of you all the time but it does not mean that you give up on yourself or what you believe. Take sometime and keep a faith in yourself and you will definitely do the best in what you believe.
5. Never give way to negative thoughts. Negative thoughts are like dark clouds looming over your head. Like dark clouds they try to shorten our sight to look beyond them as always there lies a bright sunshine beyond them. 
6. Whenever you do something no matter what you do always try to take a step backwards and try to look what you tried and what you did not and make yourself a mental note what worked out well and what did not.It will help you have a clear picture about your thought process.
7. Never let jealous and hate make way into your head as you will never grow beyond yourself it you keep on making way for such thoughts into your head. They are like weeds that destroy the product of your effort and they grow really fast.
8. Never believe in a single story.What I mean here by single story is that just by hearing about anything and just by seeing things for a moment do not try to make up a decision on them. You need to take time and analyze things before you actual make up your mind.
9. Be generous in what you do and always help others as it will surely help you become a better human being.

These thoughts that I have summed up here are a few of what I think are really necessary to grow beyond yourself. But the first thing to start is that you need to believe in yourself and that is the first step towards it..